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    Posted: 13 May 2016 at 16:38
I wrote this a couple of weeks ago and thought some you might find it interesting! This time I'm not talking about the law or rights, but mobile phones.

"What is an unplugged wedding?"

I'm not writing directly about photography, but in many cases it obviously affects everything that this is there for.

If you have any thoughts, it would be great to hear them.

Hope you have a nice weekend!
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Bravo! Been to lots of weddings where people are browsing, messaging etc.. instead of giving the couple the special day they deserve. The worst is those that don't turn of the ringer!!! Go to any receptions and you'll see plenty of people just sitting being phone zombies. When I have free food, drink and music why would I need a phone??
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I hate people complaining about phones. They are a part of modern life, they are convenient, people do use them to communicate - just not with the people in the room you're sitting

Thankfully, you're not complaining. You're just promoting turning off the phones for the wedding. I like that idea. It is a great idea that fits weddingd - people dress up in wedding dresses, tuxedos, people hire a string quartet, people have fancy dinners, people have huge cakes, people rent a castle, yes, no phones fits there. Great idea!

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Originally posted by addy landzaat addy landzaat wrote:

people do use them to communicate - just not with the people in the room you're sitting
Actually, I've heard of people texting others sitting at the same table.
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Originally posted by al al wrote:

Originally posted by addy landzaat addy landzaat wrote:

people do use them to communicate - just not with the people in the room you're sitting
Actually, I've heard of people texting others sitting at the same table.


You reminded me of something I witnessed in a Dr office last year. What had to be a mother and daughter, daughter about 14 or so, sitting next to each other in stone silence, heads bowed to their phones. All of a sudden the daughter turns sideways and wails her mother a good one on her arm and says "why won't you answer me?" Mother kept on doing whatever she was engrossed in and continued to ignore the girl. It's sad and getting sadder.
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Originally posted by bharnois bharnois wrote:

Bravo! Been to lots of weddings where people are browsing, messaging etc.. instead of giving the couple the special day they deserve. The worst is those that don't turn of the ringer!!! Go to any receptions and you'll see plenty of people just sitting being phone zombies. When I have free food, drink and music why would I need a phone??


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Originally posted by addy landzaat addy landzaat wrote:

I hate people complaining about phones. They are a part of modern life, they are convenient, people do use them to communicate - just not with the people in the room you're sitting

Thankfully, you're not complaining. You're just promoting turning off the phones for the wedding. I like that idea. It is a great idea that fits weddingd - people dress up in wedding dresses, tuxedos, people hire a string quartet, people have fancy dinners, people have huge cakes, people rent a castle, yes, no phones fits there. Great idea!



Thank you sir! It's written about quite a lot these days and I find most of them a bit "whingey", about people getting in the way of "there photos" etc, so tried to take a different side on it.
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Originally posted by al al wrote:

Originally posted by addy landzaat addy landzaat wrote:

people do use them to communicate - just not with the people in the room you're sitting
Actually, I've heard of people texting others sitting at the same table.


LOL, very true!

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Originally posted by waleskeg waleskeg wrote:

Originally posted by al al wrote:

Originally posted by addy landzaat addy landzaat wrote:

people do use them to communicate - just not with the people in the room you're sitting
Actually, I've heard of people texting others sitting at the same table.


You reminded me of something I witnessed in a Dr office last year. What had to be a mother and daughter, daughter about 14 or so, sitting next to each other in stone silence, heads bowed to their phones. All of a sudden the daughter turns sideways and wails her mother a good one on her arm and says "why won't you answer me?" Mother kept on doing whatever she was engrossed in and continued to ignore the girl. It's sad and getting sadder.


My first thought is that there could be another side to this - such as the daughter trying to simply get her own way, and the mother not wanting to appease her every demand. Similar to the crying baby, etc.

BUT, I do get what you mean in principle. You can see such things often and wonder. Like the couple sat in a restaurant, both staring at their phone, rather than talking, or anything.

I love being without my phone, actively leave it at home/out of reach when not working.
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I do weddings and I love my cell phone. Soooo, I agree to a certain point and I don't.

I always discus it with the couple. What THEY want, it is THEIR day, not mine. If they don't mind having pics with all the guest hidding behind cells and tablets, it is fine with me. Of having moments ruined because guests jump in front of me, or ruin my lighting, it is up to them.

If that is NOT what they want, I suggest that they ask the guests to at least turn of their phones during the ceremony.

Besides that, including a cell in the day can be fun and you might end up with fun shots.
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As someone who has officiated at weddings, I see both sides. If the ceremony is taking place in a church, we will always ask that phones and tablets not be used during the service. At other venues, it is always left to the couple and what they want. I actually like the idea of cell phones at receptions. It's like the "olden days" when there were disposable film cameras on each table for the guest to use. I did this at my own wedding and some of our favorite pictures were taken by our guests.
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That is fair enough, but I'm not sure we're quite on the same page here. Let me elaborate.

I love photographing weddings and I use my phone frequently for all sorts of things.

Those two things are separate to the concept of an unplugged wedding.

To clarify, I am not telling people to set aside their needs and desires on their wedding day, to appease a concept, or my opinion. I do not have a discussion where I say "You should tell your guests to not bring their mobile phones". It's not something I ever discuss because it's not necessary. Unless, of course, someone brings up the topic as they've already planned it, at which point we might chat a little and make some jokes, relate experience etc.

What I'm doing is putting forward a concept which is spoken about often, and pointing out there are actually studies and research that back this up. To say, it's not just about 'making better photos', or pleasing a trend - that the research shows you and everyone may benefit.

It suits my clients. So when someone like them reads it, it resonates with how they see things and the experience they desire.

Because they absolutely want to have fun.

The thing is that the idea of fun differs greatly.

Some people will want to have 'fun' by getting drunk and taking selfies.

Which is fine, but it's not for everyone.

And for the people that don't want that sort of 'fun', they'll likely reap the benefits of an unplugged wedding too.

Originally posted by Anita Anita wrote:

I do weddings and I love my cell phone. Soooo, I agree to a certain point and I don't.

I always discus it with the couple. What THEY want, it is THEIR day, not mine. If they don't mind having pics with all the guest hidding behind cells and tablets, it is fine with me. Of having moments ruined because guests jump in front of me, or ruin my lighting, it is up to them.

If that is NOT what they want, I suggest that they ask the guests to at least turn of their phones during the ceremony.

Besides that, including a cell in the day can be fun and you might end up with fun shots.
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Originally posted by Basil Basil wrote:

As someone who has officiated at weddings, I see both sides. If the ceremony is taking place in a church, we will always ask that phones and tablets not be used during the service. At other venues, it is always left to the couple and what they want. I actually like the idea of cell phones at receptions. It's like the "olden days" when there were disposable film cameras on each table for the guest to use. I did this at my own wedding and some of our favorite pictures were taken by our guests.


Interesting experiences, thank you for sharing!
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Well that's right! Nobody said to leave them at home. If you left it home you wouldn't be able to annoy the photographer by getting in the way to get your shots.
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