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    Posted: 26 April 2019 at 15:39
Hi all. It's been a long time. 10 years since my last post to be exact.

In a nutshell.....

I caught my wife having an affair. Filed for divorce. Custody battle over my two kids. Sold all my possessions including all my camera gear. Attorneys get most of everything. Massive depression. Went from a six figure job to living out of my truck...actually homeless for 3 months. Divorce finalized. Kids are grown. Things start looking up. Finally get an apartment a job and a dependable car again. Relocating to Chattanooga to be closer to hang gliding and nightlife. Income is half of what I made before but I am surviving.

Stumbled into Dyxum again because I'm thinking about getting a camera.

How's everyone doing?

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Originally posted by ninrocket ninrocket wrote:

How's everyone doing?

Can't complain ... especially after reading your story. Hope things will be looking up now.
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The toughest times in my life are fondly looked back upon as the best teachers with the brightest lessons.

You didn't travel that journey alone, though I'm sure it felt so at times. Your transparency shines of personal growth. What better gift?

Yeah man, life is good. Evolve or die. Thanks for asking.

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Man, those times of growth can be the pits. But we come through stronger and hopefully a bit wiser. Now you are about to embark on the next stage of your journey, filled with even more questions and confusion: A mount or E mount?
To see is to enjoy. To see beyond is to rejoice.

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What doesn't kill you
Just makes you stronger!!

And then you got Murphy's law... When you think it cannot get any worse... It does.

I believe that everything in life is for a reason. If I believe I deserve it that's another story.

The worse appears to be gone. Enjoy life and the small things in it because when when we look at the big picture it can be disappointing.

With these pearls of wisdom from who was already there said I would say: Go mirroless, any camera 6xxx will do the trick and they are nice and light enough to carry everywhere.
Don't think, Just click it!!

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Originally posted by ninrocket ninrocket wrote:

Attorneys get most of everything.




Sorry to hear about your story. Life can kick you in the nuts pretty hard even when you're trying to live a good life, unfortunately.

I watched a documentary called "Divorce Inc." It's a must watch for ALL married couples living in the USA. If you file for divorce in the USA, effectively attorneys on both sides will clean you out. It's legalized robbery of EVERYTHING.
It's so stark that Ramsay Bolton plus Cersei Lannister would be envious of what divorce attorneys do.
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Well wow. Good on things for looking up and for you to perservering, it sounds like.

This is a song I like to hum when things are a bit south of ho-hum: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EUY2kJE0AZE
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I read your post the first day you wrote it and have come back more than once to reread it. We've walked very similar paths though I was able to keep my job which I've just retired from after the past 30 yrs as an ins adjuster. My war began in 1995 and ended in 2001 just before 9/11. My radar for women was broken but God gave me the greatest responsibility I ever had in my daughter and all her mother did was want my money and to take our daughter from me due to the fatherly attention I paid to our daughter. 1st hearing was the standard in the US, a PFA (protection from abuse) order all women first file as a 1st step to get the man out of the house. Well she didn't think that one out because in that filing it stated I'd slammed our front door pinning her between it & the outside door. Problem was there's a 6" gap between the inside wooden door & outside aluminum & glass door. Being a "documentor" of damage as an adjuster, I arrived at the hearing with pics of the undamaged exterior door and demonstrated to the Judge there was no way her body would have successfully fit between the 2 w/o breaking the glass. He asked her if she had family locally, she said yes, asked me, I said no and ordered her out. That was the one & only skirmish I'd win over the next several years and I looked at my daughter who was 6 at the time and said to myself this is the hill I will die on. There are no do overs, we have one chance and only one to raise a child. I'll never forget the very 1st Custody hearing when the next Judge looked at me and asked "what makes you think you can come into my Courtroom and prove you can be a better mother to your daughter than her own mother?" I knew with that blatant bias being openly spoken I had a long rough road ahead of me. I too sold nearly everything I owned, fired my 1st atty after he took off with $1k and I got really mad over that and though it was not easy, I educated myself on how and filed the papers & got him disbarred in the state of PA. Next atty was from Philly and the reason I hired him was that he'd been successful in gaining Custody of his 2 sons in Phila County. He saw I was struggling financially keeping her in private Christian school as well as Martial Arts and so he allowed me to do hearing prep which his paralegal reviewed first to work off my account with him. I had to pay for previous hearing transcripts which at 200 - 300 pages added up but it all worked out in the end. I learned alot about legal stuff, he was a good teacher and was on the opposite side of the coin that many attys are. The current slimeball Michael Avenatti is an example. I slowly regained my life and wasn't in the poor house anymore and discovered SLRs in 2004, a Minolta 5000 w/3 old lenses for $100 buy it now on fleabay which I bought and was astounded at the flexibility I had with the different lenses on a film body. At work all I'd ever used was a silly point & shoot. Then came the Minolta 7D for me and from there I went nuts with gear. I discovered Dyxum and a whole lot of other great stuff about this wonderful world of photography. I never have looked back and am soon to launch my 34' RV and gear off to explore this great land of ours, to eventually settle in MT with family members. I've explored out there and the 4 corners in my car always with a time line I had to abide by to return to work. Not anymore! And I know it will work out for you too. The quiet times for you when you are there with your camera will be your own memoir for yourself. Your times hang gliding will be thrills in between that will bring some envy to others and satisfaction to yourself for having made it. I truly wish you well, the depression and utter frustration and pure hurt you endured were not things you'd ever dreamed of on that day you said "I do." You though are in a class of your own because you worked it out and came out on the other side still alive, still there, still mattering.
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Wow. Now that’s a great story!
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